We all have those moments in life when someone says something or something happens that changes you almost immediately. I remember back in my science degree days when a past boyfriend said to me, “you are a gunna, you always say you are going to do something, why not actually do it”. Now at the time I got furious. How could I be a gunna? I was studying full time, I was working part time, I had started to achieve life goals like learning to ride a motorbike and I had begun the journey of planting 1000s of trees at The Spit and volunteering in my community. In my opinion I was a doer, but really, there were so many other things I was going to do… like exercise more, go to bed earlier, eat less sugar and save more money (what I am still working on!).
Fast forward almost 10 years and I probably still say ‘gunna’ but I have integrity about it! I attach a deadline to the action and imagine a project canvas for the very action I want to do in my head. I think about how am I going to do what I said I was going to do while I am already doing everything that I said I was going to do. Then it’s the I’m so busy, busy, busy at the moment, that can wait- which above all are just lame excuses. I got over this only a year ago! I was living a busy life, but really being busy is an excuse for not managing your time or prioritising. In my opinion it’s weak.
I now live a fulfilling life. At the end of each day I know I am fulfilled. I have done the best that I can do.
- making someone satisfied or happy through allowing their character or abilities to develop fully.
Wow, isn’t that powerful? To live a life where you make someone and yourself satisfied or happy through allowing their character or abilities to develop fully?
What does that look like to you? Take a moment and think about it.
Now back to reality look over your shoulder, around you and in front of you. Does your vista make you feel fulfilled? Where are you in life? What are you doing? Where are you going? How do you feel about this all?
I could create a pop quiz and tell you the answers but the truth is you can only discover the answers for yourself. When my past boyfriend told me I was a gunna that shook me and from that moment I become a doer – well a busy doer, now I am a fulfilled doer.
In fact probably too much of being a fulfilled doer which has been taxing on every other boyfriend since then. Because if they weren’t a doer I’d transform from an inspiring inaction girlfriend into a nagging bitch. Seriously! And in my head I’d be thinking… why aren’t they on time, why can’t they walk the dog twice a day, why can’t they vacuum, cook dinner and wash the clothes all at once … Same goes for some of my colleagues where it’d drive me crazy if they weren’t ‘as busy’ as me, instead stir their coffee and tea way too slow or complain about complaining, wasting precious inaction time …
Where is this tangent going?
The point is to be a doer you need to start with having integrity with what you say you are going to do and then the next step is prioritising. It’s not going to be a perfect pathway but why not give it a crack and start living a fulfilling life?
Cause the moment to crack the whip on yourself will be the moment you actually start living a fulfilled life. For me it’s been amazing!
I am rewarded everyday! From the best coffee every morning, to getting the best car parks (there is no parking issue at Griffith University…) And last week I was nominated as a top 3 finalist for the Griffith University Sciences Young Alumni award. Like seriously! Me? Out of all the other amazing under 30 year olds creating change and saving the world and people! Then yesterday I was reminded that life is amazing with receiving a First Class Honours in Humanities. I know. It just keeps flowing …
Above all I couldn’t have achieved everything X 10 without living a life with integrity. Once I gave up the busy card all of a sudden I was able to achieve more and in the past year it has been mind blowing. Most people say Honours is an intense year, why not add full time work, starting two kick starters, volunteering and completing 3 other programs/ courses?
Imagine what the next year will open up? Most likely the long awaiting PhD, find new love, have cleaner beaches and waterways and more empowered people creating positive change for the planet and it all starts today (now) – I am meeting the Gold Coast Mayor tomorrow to discuss what’s next … to achieve cleaner beaches and waterways within the next year [and I have the best, happiest solution].
It’s time to scale the possible!